Soon after we started dating, Jeff and I knew we would get married and have children. Because we were older than your typical newlyweds we decided to start our family right away. Adoption was part of our discussions from the beginning. As the months went by without a pregnancy, we talked about it more and started preliminary research. After a year and a half we saw doctors and were diagnosed with "unexplained infertility" Huh????? So we're fine, just not pregnant. Our choice was to pursue fertility treatments or adopt. We weren't committed to producing our biological offspring and we weren't out to save an orphan. We just wanted a baby.
We came up with a plan to try a few cycles of IUI and then move to adoption if they failed, but as the time approached to start the IUI's, I realized my heart wasn't in it. Jeff wasn't all that crazy about the process anyway, so when I suggested skipping the treatments and going straight to adoption, he was fine with it. The odds verses the cost just didn't make sense when compared to adoption. That same month we went to our agency's information meeting and sent in our application.
It really wasn't a complicated decision.
We chose China for equally logical reasons. Their costs are lower. Their process is faster and more predictable. And because the government controls the process closely, there is no corruption.
It's amazing, really, how practical we have been about something so emotional.
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