I know they mean well. I know they're trying to give me some hope, or something. But the most annoying thing you can say to me right now is something like, "Well, you're going to get pregnant now." or "Now that you're relaxed, you're sure to get pregnant" or "I know someone ...."
Everyone seems to know someone who got pregnant after adopting. I find this amazing since I've never even met someone who adopted before. It seems that relaxing and adopting are all it takes to have a baby of "your own."
Maybe they don't realize that saying this implies my adopted child is second best and not what I REALLY want. They don't realize I don't need to be given hope of having "my own" My adopted daughter WILL BE my own. My own baby girl who didn't happen to come from my body. She is not second best. She will not be loved less. At this point, I believe we were blessed with infertility in order to be graced with the miracle of adoption.
2 comments:
You go girl!
Gotta say, Jenn and I feel the same way
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